Tom and Nancy were a couple in their early forties, who had been trying to conceive for four years. Due to their age and unexplained infertility, their specialist finally encouraged them to pursue adoption.

They went home, opened their yellow pages, and called the first adoption referral listed. This agency was very helpful with the homestudy and answered all the questions the couple had. In fact, they were so kind and professional, Tom and Nancy never thought to consider that they should ask for references or research other professionals.

As the waiting process began, Tom and Nancy were patient, knowing their baby would come. But when four years had passed with little activity, they knew they had made a mistake, costing them money, and precious, precious time.

Face it, most of us don't begin the adoption process because we want to -- it is a miraculous blessing born out of desperate need. It is this desperate need that unscrupulous people will take advantage of.

Three Adoption Pitfalls You Must Avoid!

Many families find themselves learning about adoption after they have already wasted valuable time and money on bad adoption plans, scams, and frauds. Armed with some very basic knowledge, you will have a huge advantage over other adoptive families and you will complete your adoption far sooner.

Here are the top three adoption pitfalls:

1. If it sounds too good to be true, it is!
The reality is, you have to trust someone when it comes to your adoption. How do you determine if someone is worthy of your trust? Beware of anyone, adoption professional or birthmother, who promises something that simply sounds too perfect. This may mean an extremely low cost, very short wait time, or especially a multiple birth. Be assertive and ask for facts to back up the claims. This is your adoption. You are putting your family into a position of trusting another individual and you need to know that you've done all you can to protect your investment of time, money, and emotion.

2. Don't give any money to a birthmother or her representative without verifying their legitimacy.
Women posing as birthmothers call with heart-wrenching stories, willing to give you their baby, if only you can help them with money. Other individuals may call with promises of giving your phone number to a birthmother they know for $500. Never give anyone money without knowing more about who you are dealing with. Not only can you end up losing the money, you may be putting yourself at legal risk. Consult with your attorney or adoption professional before giving any money to a birthmother. If you have agreed to pay some living expenses, such as rent for example, pay her landlord directly rather than sending her the money to do it herself.

3. Research all adoption professionals you choose to work with.
Some adoption professionals may make promises that seem way out of line with others you've spoken with. Regardless of whom you choose to work with, research them before signing any agreement. Ask for references, contact their local Better Business Bureau, and read any contracts thoroughly, reviewing with an adoption attorney if possible. Don't be shy about asking to speak with past clients. If they are a reputable organization, they should be more than happy to let you speak with their successful families.

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Tom and Nancy made a costly mistake. It robbed them of four precious years they could have been sharing with their adopted child. The adoption professional they contracted with accepted every family that applied and the average wait time was over five years for a newborn. Thankfully, this couple made a change and did go on to successfully adopt.

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